Joy In The Moment

A NO Can Lead to a YES!

By Joy Pape

“Every adversity, every failure,  every heartache,  carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
–Napoleon Hill

Some people think they can’t say NO, but in reality, all of us say NO all the time to something when we choose to say YES to something else. If you choose to wear an outfit, you are saying YES to wearing that outfit and NO to wearing something else. 

What about when someone says NO to us? Especially when it is related to a burning desire we have had for most of our lives? How do we feel when someone does not agree with us? For example, there are many famous people who were turned down repeatedly when they applied for a position or submitted a work of theirs, only to finally be accepted by someone else. As the saying goes, ‘’If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”

Some of us have a dream, a burning desire of something we know we should do. We make plans to make it happen. There’s nothing wrong with that but often it entails someone else to go along with our plans. 

When that ’someone else or something else’ doesn’t go along with our plan and tells us no, it can devastate us or cause us to give up. OR we can realize that maybe that wasn’t the right match or the right time. Trust that ‘knowing’ we have within us and keep going. We may find out that NO was a door to open a bigger YES than we could have ever expected or planned for.

Accept the NO and what is for the moment. Don’t let it get you down. Keep following that which you know you should do and have some joy in the moment. 

I’ve learned to live this way. Phenomenal things have happened and it can for you too.